American English Compliments

Functions of Compliments

In American English, we use compliments for a variety of reasons:

• To express admiration or approval of someone’s work/appearance/taste (Manes, 1983;赫伯特,1990).
• To establish/confirm/maintain solidarity (Manes & Wolfson, 1981;Wolfson, 1989).
• To replace greetings/gratitude/apologies/congratulations (Wolfson, 1983,1989).
• To soften face-threatening acts such as apologies, requests and criticism (Brown & Levinson, 1987;Wolfson, 1983).
• To open and sustain conversation (conversation strategy) (Wolfson, 1983;Billmyer, 1990;Dunham, 1992).
• To reinforce desired behavior (Manes, 1983).

A great majority of compliments are addressed to people of similar age and status to the compliment giver (克纳普, Hopper, & Bell, 1984[©]).

Acceptance responses occur only about a third of the time. In American English, two thirds of the time respondents to compliments do something other than to accept them (赫伯特,1990[©]).

In terms of sentence structure, compliments in American English can be classified into 9 categories.

NP = noun phrase
ADJ = adjective
PRO = pronoun
V = verb
ADV = adverb

1. Your blouse is/looks (really) beautiful. (NP is/looks (really) ADJ)
2. I (really) like/love your car. (I (really) like/love NP)
3. That’s a (really) nice wall hanging. (PRO is (really) a ADJ NP)
4. You did a (really) good job. (You V a (really) ADV NP)
5. You really handled that situation well. (You V (NP) (really) ADV)
6. You have such beautiful hair! (You have (a) ADJ NP!)
7. What a lovely baby you have! (What (a) ADJ NP!)
8. Nice game! (ADJ NP!)
9. Isn’t your ring beautiful! (Isn’t NP ADJ!)

Above passages fromManes & Wolfson (1981), p. 120.

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Responses to Compliments

As noted in the introduction to this website, and at the beginning of this compliment page, Americans rarely accept compliments. Deflecting or rejecting compliments negates the implication that the addressee is superior to the speaker in any way. In American English, the preference of response strategies other than acceptance may be related to the notion of democracy and equality of all human beings (Herbert & Straight, 1989, p. 39[©]).

Compliment Response Strategies

1. Accept
   • Appreciation Token (Thanks/Thank you)*
   • Comment Acceptance (Yeah, it’s my favorite, too)*
   • Praise Upgrade (Really brings out the blue in my eyes, doesn’t it?)**
   
   
2. Mitigate
   • Comment History (I bought it for the trip to Arizona)**
   • Shift credit (My brother gave it to me/It really knitted itself)**
   • Questioning or Request Reassurance/Repetition (Do you really like them?)*
   • Return (So’s yours)**
   • Scale Down/Downgrade (It’s really quite old)**
   
   
3. Reject
   • Disagreeing Utterance (A:You look good and healthy.B:I feel fat)*
   
   
4. No Response**
   
5. Request Interpretation**
   • Addressee interprets the compliment as a request: (You wanna borrow this one too?)

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Above passages adapted from *Nelson, Al-Batal, & Echols (1996), p.419 and **赫伯特,1990, p. 208 [©].

Gender Differences in American Compliments

There are some interesting gender differences in the giving of compliments:

• Compliments given by female speakers tend to have a personal focus and use 1^stand 2^ndperson pronouns: "Ilove your purse!" "Youlook great!" (赫伯特,1990[©]).


• Compliments given by male speakers are often impersonal: "Nice game!" "Good job!" (赫伯特,1990[©];Holmes, 1988[©]).


• Women give and receive significantly more compliments to each other than they do to men or men do to each other (Holmes, 1988[©]).


• Male compliments are more likely to be accepted than female compliments (赫伯特,1990[©]).

References

Billmyer, k(1990)。"I really like your lifestyle": ESL learners learning how to compliment.佩恩工作状态ng Papers in Educational Linguistics, 6(2), 31-48.

Brown, P., & Levinson, S. (1987).Politeness:Some Universals in Language Use. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.

Dunham, P. (1992).Using compliments in the ESL classroom: An analysis of culture and gender.MinneTESOL Journal, 10, 75-85.

Herbert, R. K. (1990).Sex-based differences in compliment behavior.Language in Society, 19, 201-224.

Herbert, R. K. & Straight, S. (1989).Compliment Rejection versus Compliment-Avoidance: Listener-based Versus Speaker-based Pragmatic Strategies.Language and Communication, 9(1), 35-47.

Holmes, J. (1988).Paying Compliments: A Sex-Preferential Politeness Strategy.Journal of Pragmatics 12, 445-465.

克纳普, M. L., et al. (1984).Compliments: A Descriptive Taxonomy.Journal of Communication, 34(4), 12-31.

克纳普, M., Hopper, R., & Bell, R. (1984).Compliments: A descriptive taxonomy.�Journal of Communication,�34(4), 12-31. doi:10.1111/j.1460-2466.1984.tb02185.x

Manes, J. (1983).Compliments: A mirror of cultural values. In N. Wolfson and E. Judd (Eds.),Sociolinguistics and Language Acquisition(pp. 82-95). Rowley, MA: Newbury House.

Manes, J. & Wolfson, N. (1981).The compliment formula. In F. Coulmas (Ed.),Conversational Routine: Explorations in Standardized Communication Situations and Prepatterned Speech(pp. 116-132). The Hague, the Netherlands: Mouton Publishers.

Nelson, G. L., Al-batal, M. & Echols, E. (1996).Arabic and English compliment responses: Potential for pragmatic failure.Applied Linguistics, 17(4), 411-432.

Wolfson, N. (1989).Perspectives: Sociolinguistics and TESOL. Rowley, MA: Newbury House.

Wolfson, N. (1983).An Empirically based analysis of complimenting in American English. In N. Wolfson and E. Judd (Eds.),Sociolinguistics and Language Acquisition(pp. 82-95). Rowley, MA: Newbury House.

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